When it comes to relationships, honesty is the best policy according to Jasmine S., the founder of the School of Sex and organizer of the Behind Closed Doors monthly sex parties in New York City for couples and single women. Hand-picked guests from all over the world are invited to Jasmine’s exclusive and elaborate yet notoriously naughty events where they are free to experience a night of sexual exploration. The saucy sex party has been recognized as the best swinger club in New York City and has received numerous honors including “top party to hook up.”
“A strong relationship is built on good communication and honesty, but far too many people do not share their sexual fantasies with their partners out of embarrassment or fear. It’s about time that people were more honest about these desires,” says Jasmine. “Instead of cheating on one’s partner to fulfill sexual desires, which may result in the collapse of a marriage and collateral damage to children, one can be open and honest enough to try something radically different and eye opening,” she advised.
The twenty-something founder cautions the use of the word “swinger” when referring to the behavior of Behind Closed Doors (“BCD”) guests. “This isn’t your run-of-the-mill New York City swinger party. Playing at my events can mean anything from touching or kissing to sex. Many of the guests who attend are voyeurs, exhibitionists, or the mere curious. Other guests are looking for something more soft-core than swapping partners. I welcome all of them with open arms!” she added.
But for those interested in swinging, Jasmine offers something very unique — Swing School, which is one of the key relationship counseling workshops run by the School of Sex . For those couples who are interested in swapping partners or finding a single woman for a threesome, there is a lot to learn. “At the core of Swing School, offered during every BCD event, is advice on how to overcome feelings of jealousy. My husband and I reflect on many of our own experiences to advise couples on how to go about swinging with other couples and single women,” Jasmine added.
Through a careful process of selection, Jasmine is able to successfully congregate an amazingly sexy group of young, attractive, open-minded and intelligent people with a common interest — to explore and indulge their erotic pleasures in a shared space. Those interested in applying to the exclusive parties are directed to visit the club’s website at http://bcd-nyc.com and asked to answer a series of questions as well as to submit a picture (for anonymity’s sake, blurred faces are perfectly acceptable). “I screen for couples where both partners are equally interested in attending to enhance their relationship. All my guests must not only be attractive but must have an open-mind and a positive attitude,” says Jasmine.
The result? BCD members range from 21-45 years old and are a far cry from attendees at any other swinger party — they’re exceptionally beautiful. Guests range from graduate students and runway models to doctors and lawyers. “I started the ‘selective swinging’ movement to ensure that my guests have a more stimulating time and are more likely to find potential playmates to whom they are very attracted,” Jasmine commented. The monthly BCD events are extremely discreet — when asked, Jasmine declined to identify celebrity guests rumored to have attended in the past.
Guests who attend the events have rave reviews. Many credit Behind Closed Doors with re-energizing their relationships. “It’s sexy, it’s fun, and it’s pressure free. We just attended our first party and were genuinely surprised at how approachable and liberating it was. The atmosphere was sexually charged and so many of our fantasies came true — we intend to come back every month!” remarked one newlywed couple who recently attended an “Eyes Wide Shut” themed event.